Hadhrat Hakim al-Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanawi (may Allah have mercy on him) instructed a spiritual aspirant,

“All praise to Allah, your condition is good. However, as yet the effects of Allah’s remembrance (dhikrullah) have not appeared in you.  These effects are contingent on talking less (talil e kalam), reduced intermingling with people (taqlil e ikhtelat ma’al inam)and decreased attention and involvement in engrossing relationships (qilat e iltifat ilal ta’aluqat).”

Tarbiyat us Salik, volume 1, page 463