Addressing a gathering of female seekers Hakim al Umma Mawlana Ashraf Ali Thanawi (Allah have mercy on him) said (from behind a barrier),

‘Being submissive to husband is considered to be a shameful thing.

Yo do not consider this to be from the rulings of Shariah.

If anyone of you gets enthusiastic about religion then she will recite litanies and award in huge numbers. I tell you that the level of these award (that are supererogatory,i.e.nafil) is (spiritually) far below in (religious quest). The most superior thing is to act against one’s (nafs) desires. Having reverence and respect for and being submissive to husband is against one’s desire and therefore more superior (mujahida:spiritual struggle).

Tohfa-e-zojain, page 51