Shaikh Mohammad Kaleem (Allah preserve him) a senior khalifa of Arif billah Dr Abdul Hayy Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) said to a brother who lost his twenty three year old son suddenly,

‘Excessive intentional discussion of the deceased is to be avoided. This is because of the remote possibility of development of a thought questioning the Divine decree. That is, why did this happen?

This will be against the patience required.

Therefore, be careful.

Every time his discussion comes up recite,
أنا لله و أنا اليه راجعون
contemplating the meanings discussed earlier.’

Shaikh Mohammad Kaleem sahib db’s residence. Darul Uloom Karachi, Sunday, noon, 18th December 2012.