‘Arif billah Dr. Abdul Hayy ‘Arifi (Allah have mercy on him) said;

“Brethren!

If you want to get a certification and approval for your knowledge obtain it from a Darululoom (maderassa) but for the achievements in tareeqat (i.e. getting rid of blame worthy moral traits like anger, pride, show off etc. & acquisition of praiseworthy moral traits like sincerity, humility, patience, etc.) get it from your wife, because she really knows you (inside out).”
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Malfoozat-e-Arifi page 216

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