Category Archives: C. Blame worthy Morals

The bad moral characteristics that have to be removed from within ourselves

Cure for Praise of others

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
When some one praises me in front, I have contradictory feelings in my heart about it. I like it and at the same time I stop those praising me to not praise me. Please guide me on how I should handle this correctly. Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“Spontaneous natural happiness is not detrimental.
On these occasions contemplate that, all praise is due to Allah SWT, He made them see my good state. If they were to know of my reality they would have hated me.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #10

Treatment for talking too much

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
I have this problem that I talk too much. Useless discussion with friends / family and talking without thinking and realizing its effects and I am not able to control myself. Please guide me on how to control myself in this regard? Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“This thing is very harmful on this tareeq (path of self reformation). Stop yourself forcefully from talking more and only talk when required. Avoid useless discussions completely.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #12

Keeping track of time & company

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Khawaja Mohammed Ma’soom Sirhindi (Allah have mercy on him) instructed a senior disciple,

‘Be vigilant in keeping track of your time. Spend it in actions that are important. Do not waste it.

Save yourself from excessive mingling with other people. This is because (excessive mingling without a need) ruins the beauty of ‘nisbet e batin’.

Excessive interactions with people without a righteous intention becomes a source of disconnection with Allah.

There is saying of a pious predecessor,
‘Abstain from the bad company and keep good company to the extent that it does not disconnect you from Allah.’

Maktubaat Hazrat Khawaja Mohammed Ma’soom Sirhindi rehmatullah, talkhees wa tar juma, Maktub 13, page 23-4

Islah of spouse

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanwi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘I received a letter from a female. She has has written few complaints of her husband. She further wrote that if I forbid him from indulgence in wrongful acts he rebukes me excessively. She requested an amulet (ta’weez) or a recitation (wazifa) for his reform (islah).

I wrote to her in reply that if there is no fear of retaliation (to your advice) then you can do so with extreme politeness and flattery. Otherwise, you are excused. Do not say anything (to him in this regards).

(Hakim al Umma then addressed the seekers beside him) Is islah possible by amulets (ta’weez) or recitations (wazifa)?

It is difficult to reform an individual who himself does not want to improve.’

Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 249-50

Treatment of a sin

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A spiritual aspirant wrote regarding a certain sin and requested for advise in that regard.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“First perform two rakah salatul tauba and seek forgiveness on your past. After that, perform two rakah salatul hajat and pray for your steadfastness. Next time when you desire to do that sin, then recall about the punishment from Allah SWT for this sin and get yourself busy in something else.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #9

Attraction towards impermissible desires

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
After leaving bad habits (watching movies, songs, bad nazri etc) I feel more attracted towards these. I don’t know how do I deal with this?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“There is no impeachment in attraction. You will be impeached only if act on the impermissible (haram) desires.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #9

Maintain severe level alert against nafs

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘Always remember this.

Do not provide an opportunity or the means to the lower self (nafs) to misbehave.

This is extremely important information that is being provided.
Nafs is the devil that destroyed the asceticism (zuhd), God-conscientiousness (taqwa) and sanctity of highly pious individuals in few moments.

Never consider it to be dead.

Sometimes due to unavailability of means (to disobey) it acts subdued. However, it is waiting for the opportunity and means (lurching to strike). ‘

Al Ifadet al Yoomia, volume 4, page 23

Brotherly advice

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Commenting on the Prophetic saying narrated in Sahih Bukhari (#104) sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve him) said,

‘Sayedina Abu Shuraih (Allah be pleased with him) taught us a etiquette. That is, irrespective of how evil an individual is and how heinous actions he is committing even then advising or inviting him (to the truth) should be in a manner that does not dishearten him. Moreover, it should take into account his (social) status.’

Inamul Bari, volume 2, page 149

Priorities in islah

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi ( Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘The pious (masters) do not focus excessively on the exoteric actions (dhahiri a’mal). This is because they can be rectified in a moment merely by changing one’s determination. That is, an individual who does not pray can (make a firm determination) in a moment and start praying, one who shaves his beard can (make a firm determination) in a moment and let it grow. Similarly, in a moment an alcoholic can repent from drinking and a transgressor (fasiq fajir) becomes God-fearing.

The important thing that the pious focus on is the rectification of the moral characteristics (ikhlaq e batinah), like arrogance (kibr) etc.. The rectification of these is very difficult.’

Husn al-Aziz, Malfuzat e Hakim al Umma ra, volume 17, page 284

Advice: sufis do not quarrel

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What did the speaker of beautiful words, the splendid face Bhalul ( majzoob, Allah have mercy on him) say,
When he passed by a quarreling Sufi

If this claimant (lover of Allah) had truly recognized the Friend (Allah), he would not have been involved in argument with the enemy (wasting time in something other-than his love).

Shaikhul mashaikh Haji Imdadullah mohajir Makki (Allah have mercy on him) wrote these verses at the very end of his treatise Faisala e haft masala.

Strange Behavior

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A seeker wrote:
When I get back from my office or some where else and am tired then I feel and behave very strange. I don’t like to talk with anyone and if any one talks to me at that time I react very badly with anger regardless of younger or older. This state remains till half an hour or until I get fresh by doing ablution or taking a quick bath.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“The cure for this is to think when coming back home that if I get tired what is the mistake of my family in that? And then after reaching home before talking with anyone first do ablution.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #7

Breaking the chains of desire

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Shaikh Ahmed bin Mohammed ‘Aijiba (Allah have mercy on him) said,

‘The only means of breaking the chains of desires of the lower self (nafs) are,
1. Overwhelming yearning (shauq) (for Allah’s pleasure)
2. Fear that makes one flee (from Allah’s displeasure)
3. Bestowal of Allah’s bounty either via means of a Perfect Shaikh, who possess alchemy potion for bringing this change or without any means,
(He chooses for His grace whom He wills. ) Allah is the Lord of great bounty. (Al-i’Emran : 74)’

Eqaz al Himam page 359

Writing blame worthy morals to shaykh

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A spiritual aspirant wrote:
I read in Basair Hakeem ul Umma ra that one should write to his shaykh one issue at a time and get advise on its cure. I don’t know where to start for myself, as I see I have too many issues to mention. Where should I start? Please advise. Jazaak Allah

Sayyidi wa sanadi Hazrat Moulana Mohammad Taqi Usmani sahib (Allah SWT preserve him and allow us to benefit from him abundantly. Ameen) replied:
“You have written about anger. Now start writing about other issues one by one. When writing an issue, please describe the incident due to which you suspect it is a blame worthy moral.”

Meraj us Salikeen: Islahi Khutoot #6

Excessive desire & preserving the serenity

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Hakim al Umma Maulana Ashraf Ali Thanvi (Allah mercy on him) said,

‘Permissible sexual desire in excess is detrimental. This is because with this excess the normal composed state vanishes (as one is over aroused sexually). The pious have advised against going to extremes in this regards.

Respected Haji (Imdaullah mohajir Makki) (Allah have mercy on him use to say,
‘As far as possible try not to let go of one’s serenity.
-Even if some one has a small amount of money he should keep it safe and not waste it. This is for the peace of mind.
– Do not succumb to diseases because of negligence (in food or medicine).
– Do not be such audacious and straightforward in speech that others become your enemy and entangle your thoughts (qalb).
In short, in the teachings of respected Haji (Imdadullah mohajir Makki, Allah have mercy on him) there was much emphasis on (preserving) the serenity (jamia’t). He repeatedly instructed that serenity is an immense thing (so preserve it).

‘Imam Ghazali (Allah have mercy on him) has written that the similitude of an individual who is not sick (with an ailment making him sexually impotent) and has stable strength (to maintain such relationship) and then uses aphrodisiac food and medicine to further enhance his sexual powers is like poking asleep snakes and scorpions inviting them to come and bite him.

If someone has a illness than it is a different issue.
Rich individuals are most interested in this.

I have warned about this issue because even permissible excessive sexual desire has a detrimental effect on one’s spirituality (batin).’

Husn al Aziz, Malfuz 442, volume 1, page 55