Marital rights

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A seeker approached to bid farewell. He was traveling abroad for a long duration without his wife.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Taqi Usmani (Allah protect and preserve him) inquired,

‘What’s the plan for your wife?’

The seeker replied that she will be staying with her parents and in-laws here in Karachi.

Sayyidi further inquired,

‘Does she wholeheartedly and explicitly agrees for this?’

The seeker said that she was aware of this plan upfront.

Sayyidi instructed,

‘Mere awareness is not enough.

Fuqha have clearly mentioned that wife’s wholehearted and explicit permission is essential for the husband to travel abroad for more than four months. Otherwise it is impermissible for the husband to travel.

Make sure that this  is clearly understood (and followed).’

Office, Darul uloom Karachi 29 Ramadan 1436/17 July 2015

Recitation in hardship 

  
Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve and protect him) said,

‘The pious predecessors have mentioned that when an individual is in hardship and there are no obvious means of alleviating it then recitation of this part of the Quranic verse 

 
1000 times is very effective.’

Tafseer Al Imran verse 173, Al Hira recording studio, Dar ul Uloom Karachi, 17 Ramadan 1436/5 July 2015

Humility: the first lesson

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A sincere brother who had been murid of Arif billah Shaikh Hakeem Akhtar and is a mojaz of Shaikh Sayyid Eshrat Jameel Meer (Allah have mercy on them) requested for islahi relationship.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve and protect him) had previously instructed him to contact the senior khulafa of his shuyukh. However, he insisted.

Sayyidi was sanadi replied,

‘Even previously I was inept ( at doing islah of others), however, recently I have become more so. Please, excuse me. It is not possible for me to reply to islahi letters anymore (due to health, large volume of letters and increased commitments).’

The brother insisted mentioning his istekhara and heartfelt attraction.

Sayyidi wa sanadi instructed him,

‘Remember that in this path one has to strive (to effectively do his/her islah). (That is, taking the path is not something ceremonial.)

Let me know in writing what had been instructed to you by your previous shuyukh and how much of it you are following (consistently).

Excuse me from replying to letters. Ask verbally whatever is required.’

Office, Darul Uloom Karachi, 10 Ramadan 1436/28 June 2015

Dowazdah tasbih in Ramadan

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A seeker inquired,

In Ramadan I recite the dowazdah tasbih as per my regular routine after fajar/tahajjud. Is it okay to do so? The restrictions of not doing it on a full stomach or after drinking cold water (for an hour prior) do they apply here also?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah preserve and protect him) replied,

‘No they do not apply here. Do as your regular routine.’

Office, Darul uloom Karachi 10 Ramadan 1436/28 June 2015. After zohar.

Ramadan: daily wird & excessive tilawet 

 
 A seeker inquired,

If in Ramadan I change my daily schedule of recitations and dhikr to include excessive recitation of Quran e Kareem everything becomes messed up. So I usually follow my daily schedule of recitations etc and after its completion I try to read excessively from Quran. Is this okay?

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Taqi Usmani (Allah protect him & allow us to benefit from him excessively) replied,

‘Yes. First you have to complete your regular daily recitations  and then do the extra good deeds.’

Office, after zuhar. Sunday 10 Ramadan 1436/28 June 2015

Dua

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Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah protect him) stressed the importance of supplication during Ramadan. It leads to the development of a connection and relationship with Allah.

He mentioned that we make the following dua in abundance.

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O Allah! protect me as a child is protected (by his parents).

Sunday. 10 Ramadan 1436/28 June Darul Uloom Karachi after zuhar bayan

Social interaction: The Principles & applications

A seeker living in USA for his training wrote,

I do not prefer socializing with others. I want to spend my free time at home.  Moreover, in socializing caution has to be taken to make sure that we share the same concepts, are careful with  diet (halal) and observe the segregation of the sexes. For all these reasons our social circle is very limited. This is not a problem for me. However, my wife feels isolated and this issue becomes a source of contention between us. Her suggestion is that we should be more flexible.

Sayyidi wa sanadi Mufti Mohammad Taqi Usmani (Allah protect and preserve him) replied,

‘I mention some principles in this regards. Keep them in mind.

1. Avoid making your self excessively dry (khushek). And with an intention to please your spouse do whatever is within the limits of being permissible.

2. Do not be pressurized by anyone for things that are overtly impermissible.

3. Be vigilant in finding individuals who relatively share the same thoughts. Socializing with them will decrease the feeling of isolation.

4. Keep the environment at home pleasant. Allocate some time for general talking, laughter and entertainment.

If  even after following all of the above issues  diligently your spouse remains upset than handle it with wisdom. Do not do anything impermissible. However, instead of being upset yourself put off the issue lightheartedly.  Except in cases where showing your being upset is absolutely necessary.’

Islahi Khatoot

Vacation: How to spend it?

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One of our readers, a graduate student, asked,

How should an individual spend his Ramadan and summer vacations ???

1) Going with Tabligi Jammat for 10-15 days

2) Performing eitakaf (seclusion in mosque for the last 10 days of Ramadhan)

3) Studying the translation and tasfir of Quran e Kareem from a scholar

4) Going to a khanqah to learn how to do remembrance of Allah (dhikr)

5) Get training of Jihad in order to be prepared if a need arises.

6) Not going anywhere. The student gives full attention to his studies. He stays at home and does whatever good deeds that are possible for him

Waiting patiently for your answer … as I am so confused regarding these things

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The following (edited) response is being shared with intention that it will, inshaAllah, benefits others.

Please, remember that each and every  person is an individual with his unique state of mind, preferneces, working stlyle, emotions, ancestral-cultural-regional-religious heritage, intellectual-educational-experiential aptitude, involvements, duties, obligations, expectations from family etc etc. Therefore, no single activity from the ones you mentioned can suit all. It is for this reason it is recommended to consult an older, experienced and pious person who knows about you in detail to recommend what is best for you.

I am not aware of your present condition in detail so it will be very difficult for me to recommend anything specific. However, I will mention the pros and cons of each and then you can decide.

1) Going with Tabligi Jammat for 10-15 days

This is the best way for individuals who are very new to deen, un- or moderately educated, living in areas without access to scholars and sufi masters.

2) Performing eitakaf

This is for moderate and advanced seekers. These are individual who have disciplined themselves to an extent and can manage their time effectively and benefit from the solitude. Otherwise people just hang around wasting time.

3) Studying the translation and tasfir of Quran e Kareem from a scholar

More important than this is the basic knowledge of aqaid and everyday fiqh. Beliefs and rulings regarding the correct way of offering our worship. Equally important is tajweed of Quran e kareem. That is reading Quran e kareem with the correct pronunciation. It is the Kalam of Allah, it has to be recited in the way it was revealed. Sadly 99% of Pakistani Muslims read it in Urdu. This is a major sin.

A person who has done these three basic things (aqaid, fiqh & tajweed) then he/she can proceed to study of Quran e kareem’s translation and Hadith sahreef.

4) Going to a khanqah to learn how to do remembrance of Allah (dhikr)

This is a misconception. Khanqah are like inpatient medical facilities where those with spiritiual sickness come for treatment. Zikr in specific ways may be a part of the treatment plan. But it is not the sole objective of staying there.

One has to make sure that it is a genuine khanqah. Not a dargah, where saint or grave worship is done. Also, the Shaykh must be competent spiritual physician and not a hereditary parasite trading in the name of his pious ancestors. And the patient himself must be aware of how to seek and follow instructions given to him.

5) Get training of Jihad in order to be prepared if a need arises.

This is the biggest fitna of our era. A major distraction for the youth.

Without jihad e akbar, that is rectifying your inner morals/ikhlaq, jihad e asghar (physical combat) can never be effective.

In the whole Makkan period of the life of our master Prophet Mohammed (Allah bless him and grant him peace) there was no order of physical jihad. Only spiritual struggle was required.

Also, most of the contemporary jihadi groups are with dubious ‘aqaid, fiqh following & politico-economic affiliations.

It is best to avoid all contact with them.

6) Not going anywhere. The student gives full attention to his studies. He stays at home and does whatever good deeds that are possible for him

This is is the best option. Provided that you use your time effectively and do not waste it, especially on internet, TV, and other impermissible (haram) activities.

Such a person should remain in contact with a spiritual mentor and get advice from him regarding how to spend his time.

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Daily recitations: way to progress 

  
We have to remind ourself that consistency of daily ma’molaat (wird) is the way to spiritual progress.

Being lax in performing them usually results in deterioration. 

At any given moment there is either increase or decrease in one’s spirituality. There is no steady or stationary state that one may become content with. No just hanging around!

The pious masters of the path have said that death is better for a salik who is not progressing.

“The Rules of Ramadan” by Mufti Muhammad Shafi Usmani (ra) – PDF available for download

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The Rules of Ramadan, a translation of أحكام رمضان authored by Mufti Muhammad Shafi Usmani (ra).

Translated by Shaykh Muhammad ibn Harun Abasoomar (db).

In this concise booklet the Honourable Muftī Muhammad Shafi Sahib (r.a.) has outlined the very basic rules of the blessed month of Ramadān.

These rules are undoubtedly very pertinent and important. It is hoped that the reader studies this booklet prior to and during the blessed month of Ramadān.

From: at-Tahawi

Shariah, Tariqa & Haqiqa: a similitude 

Allama Shibli Nomani (Allah have mercy on him) mentioned the following while describing the Tasawwuf practiced by Maulana Jalaluddin Rumi (Allah sanctify his secret),

Studying medicine is like acquiring the Shariah. It enables an individual to know the normal and diseased.

With this knowledge an individual suspects himself to be diseased and approaches a Master (Shaykh). He makes a diagnosis and prescribes a treatment. Following this treatment regimen is Tariqa.

After successful treatment a healthy state is achieved. This is Haqiqa.

Paraphrased from Sawanih Maulana Rum rehmatullah aleh

Hocapasa, Istanbul,  Turkey